Blogs / Podcasts

  • Dr. Jan Anderson
    How to Ask for Help When You’re a Perfectionist How to Ask for Help When You’re a Perfectionist

    How to Ask for Help When You’re a Perfectionist

How to Ask for Help When You’re a Perfectionist

I’m writing a book. There, I’ve said it. So almost five years into the process, I guess it’s actually going to happen. If my book coach is still speaking to me. The first sign of trouble came early on when she gave me a button to wear that says “Ask me about my book!” Since then, I contact her about […]
By |February, 20th, 2021|Personal Growth, Relationships, Success|Comments Off on How to Ask for Help When You’re a Perfectionist
  • Tired of Being Triggered?  How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.   Tired of Being Triggered?  How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.  

    Tired of Being Triggered?  How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.  

Tired of Being Triggered?  How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.  

Is there anyone who hasn’t been triggered by someone about something this year?  A near or flat-out rift with someone in your orbit from an alien value system? (more…)
By |December, 11th, 2020|Personal Growth, Relationships|Comments Off on Tired of Being Triggered?  How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.  
  • The Argument Antidote The Argument Antidote

    The Argument Antidote

The Argument Antidote

“There’s absolutely no hope for this relationship,” I thought to myself, with a sinking feeling. (more…)
By |October, 23rd, 2020|Love & Marriage, Relationships, Success|Comments Off on The Argument Antidote
  • Suicidal Thoughts? They’re Not a Good Predictor of Suicide Suicidal Thoughts? They’re Not a Good Predictor of Suicide

    Suicidal Thoughts? They’re Not a Good Predictor of Suicide

Suicidal Thoughts? They’re Not a Good Predictor of Suicide

Thinking about suicide is not a very good predictor of a suicide attempt. Thinking about suicide isn’t even one of the eight big risk factors for a suicide attempt. (more…)
By |September, 12th, 2020|Happiness, Relationships, Resilience|Comments Off on Suicidal Thoughts? They’re Not a Good Predictor of Suicide
  • The Problem with Relationships:  We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out.  Here’s How to Handle It. The Problem with Relationships:  We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out.  Here’s How to Handle It.

    The Problem with Relationships: We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out. Here’s How to Handle It.

The Problem with Relationships: We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out. Here’s How to Handle It.

“We’re not close.” That was the elegantly simple way a distressed mother tearfully described her relationships with her grown children. (more…)
By |August, 7th, 2020|Relationships|Comments Off on The Problem with Relationships: We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out. Here’s How to Handle It.
  • Louisville Family Therapist
    My Father, Money and Me My Father, Money and Me

    My Father, Money and Me

My Father, Money and Me

Several years ago, the church I attended tried something new.  A member of the congregation, rather than the minister, would deliver the customary offertory message during the Sunday morning contemporary service.  It’s the part of the worship service that involves the opening up of wallets, purses, and checkbooks — and nowadays maybe even an app on your […]
By |June, 11th, 2020|Mindfulness, Personal Growth|Comments Off on My Father, Money and Me
  • parent-adult child estrangement
    When Mother’s Day Hurts When Mother’s Day Hurts

    When Mother’s Day Hurts

When Mother’s Day Hurts

Whether it’s low contact or no contact, Mother’s Day is one of the hardest days of the year for mothers estranged from a son or daughter. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the current epidemic of estrangement from an adult child, it’s this. The ordinarily reliable norms and guidelines we use to navigate any other interpersonal breakdown successfully […]
By |May, 10th, 2020|Relationships, Resilience|Comments Off on When Mother’s Day Hurts
  • Covid Louisville
    Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond

    Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond

Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond

Right after 9/11, my mentors, Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone wrote about their decision to make the three thousand mile drive from New York to their home in northern California. During their literally “from sea to shining sea” journey, they described how they saw everything from outpourings of unity, caring and generosity, to overt signs of hatred and calls […]
By |April, 6th, 2020|Relationships, Resilience|Comments Off on Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond