Resilience

  • Therapy Louisville
    The Upside of a Self-Absorbed Mother The Upside of a Self-Absorbed Mother

    The Upside of a Self-Absorbed Mother

The Upside of a Self-Absorbed Mother

Along with all the downsides, I consider myself fortunate to have grown up with a self-absorbed mother. (My father was, too, but that’s another story.)

If you’ve ever seen a Tennessee Williams play, you’d recognize my mother right away. Whether it’s Blanche DuBois, Maggie the Cat, or Amanda Wingfield, my mother was a mashup of them all. Like all these […]

By |May, 11th, 2021|Relationships, Resilience|Comments Off on The Upside of a Self-Absorbed Mother
  • Suicidal Thoughts? They’re Not a Good Predictor of Suicide Suicidal Thoughts? They’re Not a Good Predictor of Suicide

    Suicidal Thoughts? They’re Not a Good Predictor of Suicide

Suicidal Thoughts? They’re Not a Good Predictor of Suicide

Thinking about suicide is not a very good predictor of a suicide attempt. Thinking about suicide isn’t even one of the eight big risk factors for a suicide attempt. (more…)

By |September, 12th, 2020|Happiness, Relationships, Resilience|Comments Off on Suicidal Thoughts? They’re Not a Good Predictor of Suicide
  • parent-adult child estrangement
    When Mother’s Day Hurts When Mother’s Day Hurts

    When Mother’s Day Hurts

When Mother’s Day Hurts

Whether it’s low contact or no contact, Mother’s Day is one of the hardest days of the year for mothers estranged from a son or daughter. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the current epidemic of estrangement from an adult child, it’s this. The ordinarily reliable norms and guidelines we use to navigate any other interpersonal breakdown successfully […]

By |May, 10th, 2020|Relationships, Resilience|Comments Off on When Mother’s Day Hurts
  • Covid Louisville
    Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond

    Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond

Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond

Right after 9/11, my mentors, Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone wrote about their decision to make the three thousand mile drive from New York to their home in northern California. During their literally “from sea to shining sea” journey, they described how they saw everything from outpourings of unity, caring and generosity, to overt signs of hatred and calls […]

By |April, 6th, 2020|Relationships, Resilience|Comments Off on Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond
  • estranged from adult child
    Estranged From Your Adult Child: The Last Thing You Ever Expected Estranged From Your Adult Child: The Last Thing You Ever Expected

    Estranged From Your Adult Child: The Last Thing You Ever Expected

Estranged From Your Adult Child: The Last Thing You Ever Expected

Holidays, birthdays and other family-oriented times of the year can be a time of heartache for parents whose adult children have cut them off — and the growing phenomenon is much more common than our idealized notions about family would have us believe.
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  • people skills
    Three Hacks to Handle the Difficult Person in Your Life Three Hacks to Handle the Difficult Person in Your Life

    Three Hacks to Handle the Difficult Person in Your Life

Three Hacks to Handle the Difficult Person in Your Life

I get to spend most of my time with clients coming up with “life hacks,” those simple and deliciously clever ways to deal with life’s frustrations and without a doubt, difficult people are at the top of the list.

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By |July, 16th, 2019|Relationships, Resilience, Success|Comments Off on Three Hacks to Handle the Difficult Person in Your Life
  • How To Get Along With Parents
    How to Make Peace with Your Parents — And Just About Anybody Else How to Make Peace with Your Parents — And Just About Anybody Else

    How to Make Peace with Your Parents — And Just About Anybody Else

How to Make Peace with Your Parents — And Just About Anybody Else

“It’s always something or your mother,” as Wynona Judd is fond of saying.  I guess she should know.  She and her mother Naomi Judd were one of the most successful duos in country music history, and the backstory of their complicated relationship has been well documented on reality TV.  

By |May, 17th, 2019|Happiness, Personal Growth, Relationships, Resilience|Comments Off on How to Make Peace with Your Parents — And Just About Anybody Else
  • Heart Health
    How Resilience Protects Your Heart – Inside and Out How Resilience Protects Your Heart – Inside and Out

    How Resilience Protects Your Heart – Inside and Out

How Resilience Protects Your Heart – Inside and Out

“What’s your why?”

I knew that question would be a great ice-breaker at the American Heart Association event I was hosting.

The answers came quickly, and all of them were personal: names of relatives and friends who had survived — or not — from heart disease or stroke.  Some answers struck even closer to […]

By |April, 6th, 2019|Resilience|Comments Off on How Resilience Protects Your Heart – Inside and Out