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The Problem with Relationships: We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out. Here’s How to Handle It.
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The Problem with Relationships: We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out. Here’s How to Handle It.
“We’re not close.” That was the elegantly simple way a distressed mother tearfully described her relationships with her grown children. (more…)
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My Father, Money and Me
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My Father, Money and Me
Several years ago, the church I attended tried something new. A member of the congregation, rather than the minister, would deliver the customary offertory message during the Sunday morning contemporary service. It’s the part of the worship service that involves the opening up of wallets, purses, and checkbooks — and nowadays maybe even an app on your […]
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When Mother’s Day Hurts
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When Mother’s Day Hurts
Whether it’s low contact or no contact, Mother’s Day is one of the hardest days of the year for mothers estranged from a son or daughter. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the current epidemic of estrangement from an adult child, it’s this. The ordinarily reliable norms and guidelines we use to navigate any other interpersonal breakdown successfully […]
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Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond
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Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond
Right after 9/11, my mentors, Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone wrote about their decision to make the three thousand mile drive from New York to their home in northern California. During their literally “from sea to shining sea” journey, they described how they saw everything from outpourings of unity, caring and generosity, to overt signs of hatred and calls […]
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It Starts with a Secret: Anatomy of a Breakup
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It Starts with a Secret: Anatomy of a Breakup
It starts with a secret— a decision you make in the quiet recesses of your own mind. This decision will redefine your relationship and will undoubtedly affect your partner, but you keep it to yourself. (more…)
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The Easiest Way to Change Something About Yourself
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The Easiest Way to Change Something About Yourself
Dilemmas are different from ordinary problems.
Problems have solutions. Dilemmas are more about resolution than solution. (more…)
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THE DIVORCE DILEMMA: How Do I Know Whether To Stay Or Go?
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THE DIVORCE DILEMMA: How Do I Know Whether To Stay Or Go?
While I was going through my messy divorce I was stunned to run across a book called “The Good Divorce.” Hello? Who does that?
No matter how you cut it, divorce is not an easy solution. It’s not easy emotionally and the stakes are high financially and legally. In fact, divorce is the second […]
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Three Ways To Immediately Connect With People And Stay Present Longer
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Three Ways To Immediately Connect With People And Stay Present Longer
The best way I can describe the emotional tone in the room was “contained and intense,” as I prepared to facilitate a group of caregivers for patients living with aplastic anemia and other bone marrow failure diseases.
An hour earlier I had delivered an interactive presentation for patients and caregivers about […]