Blogs / Podcasts

  • The Problem with Relationships:  We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out.  Here’s How to Handle It. The Problem with Relationships:  We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out.  Here’s How to Handle It.

    The Problem with Relationships: We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out. Here’s How to Handle It.

The Problem with Relationships: We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out. Here’s How to Handle It.

“We’re not close.” That was the elegantly simple way a distressed mother tearfully described her relationships with her grown children. (more…)
By |August, 7th, 2020|Relationships|Comments Off on The Problem with Relationships: We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out. Here’s How to Handle It.
  • Louisville Family Therapist
    My Father, Money and Me My Father, Money and Me

    My Father, Money and Me

My Father, Money and Me

Several years ago, the church I attended tried something new.  A member of the congregation, rather than the minister, would deliver the customary offertory message during the Sunday morning contemporary service.  It’s the part of the worship service that involves the opening up of wallets, purses, and checkbooks — and nowadays maybe even an app on your […]
By |June, 11th, 2020|Mindfulness, Personal Growth|Comments Off on My Father, Money and Me
  • parent-adult child estrangement
    When Mother’s Day Hurts When Mother’s Day Hurts

    When Mother’s Day Hurts

When Mother’s Day Hurts

Whether it’s low contact or no contact, Mother’s Day is one of the hardest days of the year for mothers estranged from a son or daughter. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the current epidemic of estrangement from an adult child, it’s this. The ordinarily reliable norms and guidelines we use to navigate any other interpersonal breakdown successfully […]
By |May, 10th, 2020|Relationships, Resilience|Comments Off on When Mother’s Day Hurts
  • Covid Louisville
    Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond

    Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond

Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond

Right after 9/11, my mentors, Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone wrote about their decision to make the three thousand mile drive from New York to their home in northern California. During their literally “from sea to shining sea” journey, they described how they saw everything from outpourings of unity, caring and generosity, to overt signs of hatred and calls […]
By |April, 6th, 2020|Relationships, Resilience|Comments Off on Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond
  • Considering Divorce
    It Starts with a Secret: Anatomy of a Breakup It Starts with a Secret: Anatomy of a Breakup

    It Starts with a Secret: Anatomy of a Breakup

It Starts with a Secret: Anatomy of a Breakup

It starts with a secret— a decision you make in the quiet recesses of your own mind. This decision will redefine your relationship and will undoubtedly affect your partner, but you keep it to yourself. (more…)
By |February, 29th, 2020|Love & Marriage, Relationships|Comments Off on It Starts with a Secret: Anatomy of a Breakup
  • Making a decision
    The Easiest Way to Change Something About Yourself The Easiest Way to Change Something About Yourself

    The Easiest Way to Change Something About Yourself

The Easiest Way to Change Something About Yourself

Dilemmas are different from ordinary problems.   Problems have solutions.  Dilemmas are more about resolution than solution.  (more…)
By |January, 16th, 2020|Happiness, Personal Growth, Success|Comments Off on The Easiest Way to Change Something About Yourself
  • Divorce
    THE DIVORCE DILEMMA: How Do I Know Whether To Stay Or Go? THE DIVORCE DILEMMA: How Do I Know Whether To Stay Or Go?

    THE DIVORCE DILEMMA: How Do I Know Whether To Stay Or Go?

THE DIVORCE DILEMMA: How Do I Know Whether To Stay Or Go?

While I was going through my messy divorce I was stunned to run across a book called “The Good Divorce.”  Hello?  Who does that? No matter how you cut it, divorce is not an easy solution.  It’s not easy emotionally and the stakes are high financially and legally.  In fact, divorce is the second […]
By |November, 6th, 2019|Love & Marriage|Comments Off on THE DIVORCE DILEMMA: How Do I Know Whether To Stay Or Go?
  • Dr. Jan Anderson
    Three Ways To Immediately Connect With People And Stay Present Longer Three Ways To Immediately Connect With People And Stay Present Longer

    Three Ways To Immediately Connect With People And Stay Present Longer

Three Ways To Immediately Connect With People And Stay Present Longer

The best way I can describe the emotional tone in the room was “contained and intense,” as I prepared to facilitate a group of caregivers for patients living with aplastic anemia and other bone marrow failure diseases. An hour earlier I had delivered an interactive presentation for patients and caregivers about […]
By |October, 4th, 2019|Mindfulness, Relationships|Comments Off on Three Ways To Immediately Connect With People And Stay Present Longer