This year I started asking my clients three questions at the end of every counseling session. (more…)
Dead Certain You’re Unhappy, But Dead Set Against Divorce?
Miserable in your marriage? These days it’s easy to feel disappointed when a spouse doesn’t live up to our overload of expectations: best friend, workout buddy, hot sex partner, confidante, mentor, financial planner, and life coach all rolled into one.
Estranged: When Holidays Hurt
Whether it’s low contact or no contact, the holidays can be some of the hardest days of the year for parents estranged from a son or daughter. (more…)
Dr. Jan’s Memes: A Quick Jolt of Media Therapy.
Did you know that memes can deliver a quick jolt of media therapy?
That’s why this month’s blog is a little different. I’m flipping the script that “Social media is damaging human interaction!” and sharing with you some of my most popular memes.
I think of the memes I create and share regularly on social media as “small moments of visual therapy.” […]
Suicidal Thoughts? They’re Not a Good Predictor of Suicide
Thinking about suicide is not a very good predictor of a suicide attempt. Thinking about suicide isn’t even one of the eight big risk factors for a suicide attempt. (more…)
The Easiest Way to Change Something About Yourself
Dilemmas are different from ordinary problems.
Problems have solutions. Dilemmas are more about resolution than solution. (more…)
Cultivate Your “Inner Gourmet” with Mindful Eating
A diagnosis of diabetes can feel like a death sentence. I remember observing the faces of the participants in a diabetes education program, as the nutritionist described how to manage their blood glucose by controlling portions and by eating more nominally-processed foods and fewer sweets, sugary beverages and baked goods.
Although the participants were well aware of the need to make […]
How to Make Peace with Your Parents — And Just About Anybody Else
“It’s always something or your mother,” as Wynona Judd is fond of saying. I guess she should know. She and her mother Naomi Judd were one of the most successful duos in country music history, and the backstory of their complicated relationship has been well documented on reality TV.