This year I started asking my clients three questions at the end of every counseling session. (more…)
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Self-Compassion is the New Self-Esteem: How to Not Be So Mean to Yourself.
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Self-Compassion is the New Self-Esteem: How to Not Be So Mean to Yourself.
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How to Have a Breakthrough Without Going Through a Breakdown
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How to Have a Breakthrough Without Going Through a Breakdown
“Why do you keep going back if it’s making you feel worse?” my boyfriend asked.
We were talking about one of the most unsettling experiences of my young adult life — don’t laugh — psychotherapy.
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Crushing It in Your Career: When Being Smart Isn’t Enough
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Crushing It in Your Career: When Being Smart Isn’t Enough
You’d think it would be enough to be really smart, talented, hard-working, and determined.
But to land your dream job takes a specific ingredient that’s easy to overlook during the rigors of formal education for that diploma or certification.
One of my specialties is working with medical students with plenty of smarts and drive who didn’t match into their chosen […]
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How to Ask for Help When You’re a Perfectionist
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How to Ask for Help When You’re a Perfectionist
I’m writing a book. There, I’ve said it. So almost five years into the process, I guess it’s actually going to happen. If my book coach is still speaking to me. (more…)
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Tired of Being Triggered? How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.
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Tired of Being Triggered? How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.
Is there anyone who hasn’t been triggered by someone about something this year? A near or flat-out rift with someone in your orbit from an alien value system? (more…)
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The Argument Antidote
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The Argument Antidote
“There’s absolutely no hope for this relationship,” I thought to myself, with a sinking feeling. (more…)
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When Mother’s Day Hurts
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When Mother’s Day Hurts
Whether it’s low contact or no contact, Mother’s Day is one of the hardest days of the year for mothers estranged from a son or daughter. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the current epidemic of estrangement from an adult child, it’s this. The ordinarily reliable norms and guidelines we use to navigate any other interpersonal breakdown successfully […]
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The Easiest Way to Change Something About Yourself
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The Easiest Way to Change Something About Yourself
Dilemmas are different from ordinary problems.
Problems have solutions. Dilemmas are more about resolution than solution. (more…)
