How to Find the Right Therapist: The One Question That Matters Most
(And why the answer isn’t what you think it is)
If Everything Feels Fine,
You Probably Wouldn’t Be Here
If your life is running on autopilot—no stress, no struggle—this blog probably isn’t for you.
But if you’re a high-achiever who's exhausted from holding it all together, looking fine on the outside while privately feeling stuck or burned out—keep reading.
You’re in the right place.
My Approach: Coaching vs. Counseling (Why You Might Need Both)
I’m a psychologist with a background in the business world—and a business owner myself. That real-world experience shaped how I work.
I blend traditional counseling with practical, results-focused science-based techniques. I call it: Counseling with a Coaching Edge.
It’s the best type of therapy for professionals, executives, couples, and individuals who want to go beyond venting—toward clarity, traction, and change.
It’s Not About “Being Brave”
It’s About Being Ready for Change
You’ve probably heard that it takes courage to seek help. But let’s be honest—most people don’t reach out because they’re brave. They reach out because they’re done.
You’ve already tried everything you know to feel better. You’ve hit a wall. And now you need something that works.
That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom.
What I Ask Every Client Before We Begin
Before we jump into working together, I ask four simple—but—revealing—questions:
What have you already tried? Did it help or not help?
What are the biggest challenges standing in your way?
How will you know counseling with a coaching edge is working for you? What will be different?
Why is doing this important? Why now?
These questions aren’t just intake formalities—they get right to the heart of why you’re here, what’s been missing, and what kind of change you’re after.
But underneath it all, here’s the question we’re really trying to answer…
The One Question That Really Matters:
Do I Get You?
This is where most people miss the mark when learning how to find the right therapist.
You can have the smartest therapist in the room. But if you don’t feel seen, heard, and understood, it’s not going to stick.
That “click” between therapist and client? That’s the core of effective therapy. It’s called the therapist-client connection, and it’s not fluff—it’s science.
What the Research Shows About Successful Therapy
According to decades of research, the most important predictor of success in therapy isn’t the technique, credentials, or number of sessions.
It’s this: Do you and your therapist have a real, trusting relationship?
Your brain is constantly scanning for subtle cues:
Do we connect?
Do I feel safe enough to be honest?
Is this someone I could actually open up to?
Why I Offer a Free
15-Minute Consultation
Deciding to start therapy—or to return to it—can feel like a big step. You may have questions, hesitations, or you're simply wondering, Is this the right fit for me?
That’s why I offer a complimentary 15-minute consultation. It’s a low-key way for us to connect. You can ask your questions, get a better sense of how I work, and, most importantly, feel whether we click. That “fit” matters more than most people realize. Therapy is most effective when there’s a sense of safety, trust, and collaboration.
So think of this consult as your chance to get clarity. And it’s also my chance to make sure I’m the right person to support you.
No pressure. No pitch. Just presence.
Ready to Get Unstuck and Feel Better—for Real?
If you're tired of spinning your wheels and ready for real progress—let’s see if we’re a good fit.
Click below to schedule your free 15-minute consultation.
Let’s start creating the kind of change that lasts.
