Quitting isn’t why resolutions fail. The real problem is believing change requires more discipline instead of a smarter understanding of how your brain works. When you stop shaming yourself and start interrupting autopilot, everything shifts.

Before you set new goals, pause.
This year-end reflection for high achievers shows how to reflect on what’s working, refocus your energy, and reset without pressure—so change actually sticks.

Your strengths got you here—but now they may be holding you back. Find out why flipping to the opposite extreme doesn’t work, and how a subtle shift can unlock lasting change.

Feeling stuck, burned out, or just not yourself? Learn the one question that determines whether therapy will work—and why it’s not what you think. Discover how real change starts with the right connection.

Politics and partnership don’t always mix. Discover how to handle political disagreements in your relationship—without shutting down, blowing up, or drifting apart.

Political differences can strain even the strongest relationships. This article offers practical insights from a marriage therapist on how to navigate these challenges. Learn to pause, pay attention to your reactions, and regulate your emotions. Discover how mindfulness and self-awareness can help you maintain a loving relationship despite opposing political views.

Discover the power of effective complaining in saving your marriage. Learn the subtle differences between complaints and criticism, and how to express your concerns without damaging your relationship. This article provides practical, research-backed strategies to improve communication and strengthen your bond with your partner.

Explore how staying calm and speaking up non-defensively can transform your marriage. This real-life case study illustrates the power of emotional regulation in resolving conflicts. Learn practical techniques to manage your emotions, communicate effectively, and create a stronger, more resilient relationship with your spouse.

Discover the Relationship Pulse Check, a powerful tool for maintaining a strong, healthy partnership. This article introduces a simple yet effective method to regularly assess and improve your relationship. Learn how to identify subtle signs of disconnection and implement strategies to reconnect, ensuring your relationship stays vibrant and resilient.

Trapped in an unhappy marriage but reluctant to divorce? This article challenges the stay-or-leave dichotomy, presenting research-backed alternatives for finding happiness. Discover how to improve your relationship, focus on personal growth, or consider therapeutic separation. Learn to navigate marital challenges with a fresh perspective.

Follow one couple's journey from disconnection to understanding as Dr. Jan Anderson guides a self-proclaimed 'A-hole' to discover his innate capacity for empathy. Learn practical strategies for improving communication, deepening emotional connections, and reigniting love in your relationship - all while staying true to yourself.

Think some conflicts are unsolvable? Think again. Dr. Jan Anderson shares insights from relationship experts on how to navigate perpetual disagreements without damaging your partnership. Learn practical, counterintuitive techniques to address issues constructively, enhance communication, and strengthen your bond. Discover why love alone isn't enough and how mastering these skills can transform your relationship, even when facing seemingly insurmountable differences.

Relationship breakdowns often begin with a secret decision. Dr. Jan Anderson delves into the psychology behind turning away from a partner and the impact of unshared choices. Discover why transparency isn't always the answer and learn effective strategies for maintaining connection. This insightful guide offers a fresh perspective on relationship dynamics, exploring how to navigate difficult conversations, avoid common pitfalls, and cultivate the emotional intelligence needed for lasting partnerships.

Contemplating divorce? You're not alone in this challenging crossroads. Dr. Jan Anderson, drawing from professional expertise and personal experience, offers compassionate guidance on assessing your relationship, understanding the impact on children, and charting a path forward - whether that means revitalizing your marriage or navigating a 'good divorce.' Learn how to find clarity and rebuild happiness, no matter which road you choose.