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National Quitters Day Isn't About Quitting. It's About What You Tell Yourself Next
Quitting isn’t why resolutions fail. The real problem is believing change requires more discipline instead of a smarter understanding of how your brain works. When you stop shaming yourself and start interrupting autopilot, everything shifts.
You Don’t Need to Reinvent Yourself. You Just Need to Recalibrate.
Before you set new goals, pause.
This year-end reflection for high achievers shows how to reflect on what’s working, refocus your energy, and reset without pressure—so change actually sticks.
When Every Gift Feels Like a Gamble: Finding Your Ground in Estranged Relationships
Sending a gift feels desperate. Not sending feels like giving up. Discover the "middle path" strategy that lets you stay connected to yourself—even when estrangement makes both choices feel wrong.
Why Self-Compassion Feels Dangerous to High Achievers—And Why It’s Actually Your Greatest Advantage
Think toughness drives success? Burnout isn’t proof you’re weak—it’s a signal you’re pushing the wrong way. Discover the science-backed strategies high achievers use to reset with compassion, recover faster, and lead smarter.
Is Your Greatest Strength Holding You Back?
Your strengths got you here—but now they may be holding you back. Find out why flipping to the opposite extreme doesn’t work, and how a subtle shift can unlock lasting change.
How to Find the Right Therapist: The One Question That Matters Most
Feeling stuck, burned out, or just not yourself? Learn the one question that determines whether therapy will work—and why it’s not what you think. Discover how real change starts with the right connection.
Change Without Losing Yourself: Why Real Reinvention Doesn't Mean Starting from Scratch
Reinvention doesn’t mean trading in your personality—it means expanding your range. Discover the five mindset shifts high-achievers use to grow without losing their identity.
Why You Don’t Need to Be a Perfect Mom
Struggling with mom guilt or perfectionism? Discover why being a “good enough” mother is more powerful than chasing the myth of the perfect mom—and how to redefine what it means to raise resilient, emotionally healthy kids.
From Boardroom to Breakthroughs: How the Corporate World Made Me a Better Therapist
What does real resilience look like? Dr. Jan shares how her pivot from corporate leader to psychologist shaped her unconventional approach to therapy—and what it means for high achievers, parents, and anyone feeling off course.
Politics vs. Love: You Disagree—Now What? Here’s A Game-Changer.
Politics and partnership don’t always mix. Discover how to handle political disagreements in your relationship—without shutting down, blowing up, or drifting apart.
Unlock the Surprising Science Behind Habit Change: Curiosity Beats Willpower
Discover why curiosity, not willpower, is the key to breaking stubborn habit loops. In this article, Dr. Jan Anderson explains how to rewire your brain’s reward system and create lasting, positive change—without the usual struggle.
Rebuilding Bridges: What I’ve Learned About Parent and Adult-Child Estrangement
Estranged from your adult child? Learn why today’s parent-child cutoffs are more common—and more complex—than ever. Discover mindset shifts, resilience tools, and strategic steps to help you stay grounded and open the door to reconnection.
Love and Politics: How Successful Couples Manage Their Differences
Political differences can strain even the strongest relationships. This article offers practical insights from a marriage therapist on how to navigate these challenges. Learn to pause, pay attention to your reactions, and regulate your emotions. Discover how mindfulness and self-awareness can help you maintain a loving relationship despite opposing political views.
Self-Compassion is the New Self-Esteem: How to Not Be So Mean to Yourself.
Discover how three simple questions at the end of each therapy session can dramatically improve your counseling experience. This article delves into the concept of self-compassion, debunking common misconceptions and offering practical exercises. Learn how cultivating self-compassion can lead to better relationships, improved self-esteem, and a more fulfilling life.
Estranged From Your Adult Child? Try These New Evidence-Based Strategies
Family estrangement, particularly ghosting parents, is more common than you might think. This article delves into the latest research on adult child estrangement, offering evidence-based strategies for reconciliation. Learn how to navigate the complex emotions of being cut off and discover practical steps towards rebuilding relationships with estranged adult children.
Do This To Save Your Marriage — Part 2: Learn to Complain Well
Discover the power of effective complaining in saving your marriage. Learn the subtle differences between complaints and criticism, and how to express your concerns without damaging your relationship. This article provides practical, research-backed strategies to improve communication and strengthen your bond with your partner.
Do This to Save Your Marriage: How to Stay Calm and Speak Up.
Explore how staying calm and speaking up non-defensively can transform your marriage. This real-life case study illustrates the power of emotional regulation in resolving conflicts. Learn practical techniques to manage your emotions, communicate effectively, and create a stronger, more resilient relationship with your spouse.
Blindsided by Estrangement: Can You Love Your Child Right Out of Your Life?
Delve into the perplexing world of adult child estrangement. This article explores the unexpected causes behind this growing trend, including the impacts of intensive parenting and changing family dynamics. Discover strategies for coping with the pain of estrangement and learn approaches for potential reconciliation.
The Relationship Pulse Check: A Ridiculously Easy Way to Reconnect and Recharge
Discover the Relationship Pulse Check, a powerful tool for maintaining a strong, healthy partnership. This article introduces a simple yet effective method to regularly assess and improve your relationship. Learn how to identify subtle signs of disconnection and implement strategies to reconnect, ensuring your relationship stays vibrant and resilient.
Dead Certain You're Unhappy, But Dead Set Against Divorce?
Trapped in an unhappy marriage but reluctant to divorce? This article challenges the stay-or-leave dichotomy, presenting research-backed alternatives for finding happiness. Discover how to improve your relationship, focus on personal growth, or consider therapeutic separation. Learn to navigate marital challenges with a fresh perspective.

