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When life turns up the pressure—whether in your career, your relationships, or your family—you need more than surface-level advice. You need tools that work.
These blogs deliver clear, science-backed strategies to help you think sharply, stay grounded, and take meaningful action.
Whether you’re working to reconnect with an estranged child, strengthen your marriage under pressure, or navigate a pivotal career moment without losing your edge, you’ll find actionable insights here.
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National Quitters Day Isn't About Quitting. It's About What You Tell Yourself Next
Quitting isn’t why resolutions fail. The real problem is believing change requires more discipline instead of a smarter understanding of how your brain works. When you stop shaming yourself and start interrupting autopilot, everything shifts.
You Don’t Need to Reinvent Yourself. You Just Need to Recalibrate.
Before you set new goals, pause.
This year-end reflection for high achievers shows how to reflect on what’s working, refocus your energy, and reset without pressure—so change actually sticks.
Why Self-Compassion Feels Dangerous to High Achievers—And Why It’s Actually Your Greatest Advantage
Think toughness drives success? Burnout isn’t proof you’re weak—it’s a signal you’re pushing the wrong way. Discover the science-backed strategies high achievers use to reset with compassion, recover faster, and lead smarter.
How to Find the Right Therapist: The One Question That Matters Most
Feeling stuck, burned out, or just not yourself? Learn the one question that determines whether therapy will work—and why it’s not what you think. Discover how real change starts with the right connection.
Mom Guilt? How to Give Yourself — and Your Loved Ones — a Break.
Mom guilt: a universal yet rarely discussed challenge of modern motherhood. This article explores the evolutionary roots of maternal guilt, its impact on marriages, and its manifestation across cultures. Learn strategies to balance your role as a mother with your personal identity, and discover how overcoming guilt can strengthen family relationships.
Estranged: When Holidays Hurt
Holidays can be particularly painful for parents estranged from adult children. Dr. Jan Anderson provides compassionate insight into this 'silent epidemic,' offering strategies to cope, maintain hope, and work towards reconnection. Learn how to navigate this challenging time while fostering personal growth and resilience.
Empathy 101 for A-Holes: A Love Story
Follow one couple's journey from disconnection to understanding as Dr. Jan Anderson guides a self-proclaimed 'A-hole' to discover his innate capacity for empathy. Learn practical strategies for improving communication, deepening emotional connections, and reigniting love in your relationship - all while staying true to yourself.
Tired of Being Triggered? How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.
Navigating emotional triggers in relationships can feel like walking through a minefield. Dr. Jan Anderson offers a therapist's perspective on staying calm when tensions run high. Learn counterintuitive yet effective strategies to manage your emotions, from embracing feelings to practicing self-compassion. Discover how these techniques can transform difficult conversations and strengthen your relationships, even in the most challenging times.
The Argument Antidote
Think some conflicts are unsolvable? Think again. Dr. Jan Anderson shares insights from relationship experts on how to navigate perpetual disagreements without damaging your partnership. Learn practical, counterintuitive techniques to address issues constructively, enhance communication, and strengthen your bond. Discover why love alone isn't enough and how mastering these skills can transform your relationship, even when facing seemingly insurmountable differences.
My Father, Money and Me
Our relationship with money often has deep roots in childhood experiences. Dr. Jan Anderson offers a candid look at how her father's approach to finances shaped her own attitudes, and how mindfulness meditation unveiled these unconscious patterns. Journey through her personal and professional insights on financial resilience, forgiveness, and breaking generational cycles. This introspective piece provides valuable perspectives on understanding and transforming our complex relationships with money.
Boost Your Coping Skills with Both/And Thinking: The Pandemic and Beyond
In a world of polarizing viewpoints, both/and thinking offers a powerful alternative. Dr. Jan Anderson delves into this transformative cognitive approach, sharing insights from personal experiences and mentors. Discover how expanding your 'container' to hold conflicting ideas can lead to better decision-making, improved relationships, and enhanced resilience in times of crisis. Whether you're navigating personal conflicts or global uncertainties, this guide provides practical strategies to cultivate a more nuanced and adaptable mindset.

