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  • Love and Politics: How Successful Couples Manage Their Differences Love and Politics: How Successful Couples Manage Their Differences

    Love and Politics: How Successful Couples Manage Their Differences

Love and Politics: How Successful Couples Manage Their Differences

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Are you one of those rare people who hasn’t had an argument with someone about politics?

How about someone close to you? Like maybe your spouse or partner?

When it comes to politics, there’s not much that my husband and I agree on.

And we’re by no means the only ones.

According to a recent Pew report, political affiliation has become the […]

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    Self-Compassion is the New Self-Esteem: How to Not Be So Mean to Yourself. Self-Compassion is the New Self-Esteem: How to Not Be So Mean to Yourself.

    Self-Compassion is the New Self-Esteem: How to Not Be So Mean to Yourself.

Self-Compassion is the New Self-Esteem: How to Not Be So Mean to Yourself.

This year I started asking my clients three questions at the end of every counseling session.   (more…)

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  • Estranged From Your Adult Child?  Try These New Evidence-Based Strategies Estranged From Your Adult Child?  Try These New Evidence-Based Strategies

    Estranged From Your Adult Child?  Try These New Evidence-Based Strategies

Estranged From Your Adult Child?  Try These New Evidence-Based Strategies

Do you have a close family member with whom you currently have no contact?   (more…)

  • Do This to Save Your Marriage:  How to Stay Calm and Speak Up. Do This to Save Your Marriage:  How to Stay Calm and Speak Up.

    Do This to Save Your Marriage: How to Stay Calm and Speak Up.

Do This to Save Your Marriage: How to Stay Calm and Speak Up.

Wife (taking her seat):  I think I’m done.

Husband (looking confused):  With what?

Wife:  The marriage. I think I’m done with the marriage… It’s not working. (more…)

By |September, 27th, 2022|Habit Change, Love & Marriage, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Do This to Save Your Marriage: How to Stay Calm and Speak Up.
  • parent-adult child estrangement
    Blindsided by Estrangement: Can You Love Your Child Right Out of Your Life? Blindsided by Estrangement: Can You Love Your Child Right Out of Your Life?

    Blindsided by Estrangement: Can You Love Your Child Right Out of Your Life?

Blindsided by Estrangement: Can You Love Your Child Right Out of Your Life?

Blindsided by Estrangement:  Can You Love Your Child Right Out Of Your Life? 

Abuse? Neglect? It’s easy to understand why an adult child decides to have nothing to do with a parent who subjected them to either.

Parental alienation from a messy divorce? When kids are forced to choose sides, it’s no surprise that adult-child estrangement is an unfortunate […]

  • Tired of Being Triggered?  How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.   Tired of Being Triggered?  How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.  

    Tired of Being Triggered?  How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.  

Tired of Being Triggered?  How to Not Lose It with the People You Love.  

Is there anyone who hasn’t been triggered by someone about something this year?  A near or flat-out rift with someone in your orbit from an alien value system? (more…)

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  • The Problem with Relationships:  We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out.  Here’s How to Handle It. The Problem with Relationships:  We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out.  Here’s How to Handle It.

    The Problem with Relationships: We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out. Here’s How to Handle It.

The Problem with Relationships: We Crave Connection. That Seriously Freaks Us Out. Here’s How to Handle It.

“We’re not close.” That was the elegantly simple way a distressed mother tearfully described her relationships with her grown children. (more…)

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  • CONVERSATIONAL INTELLIGENCE:  When To Break the Rules to Make Better Connections CONVERSATIONAL INTELLIGENCE:  When To Break the Rules to Make Better Connections

    CONVERSATIONAL INTELLIGENCE: When To Break the Rules to Make Better Connections

CONVERSATIONAL INTELLIGENCE: When To Break the Rules to Make Better Connections

I admit it.  I’ve never been very good at following the rules… especially when the rules don’t make sense or aren’t producing results.

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